Dear Parents,
These are some parental tips for you. I would suggest only THREE.
1. Listening to them,
2. Giving them Quality Time and
3. Letting them do things on their own.
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First, let me brief you with this example for more understanding.
Whichever device we buy, whether it is a vehicle or an electronic device, so many things are inbuilt in it. But we add in extra accessories so that we get more benefits from the device.
Just like that, PARENTING is already inbuilt in all the parents. We just need a few tips to make it more effective.
All parents love their children and care for them. They feel that buying toys and feeding them is love. That's not enough.
Children enjoy when the parents give them time and also listen to them. They want somebody to listen to.
In earlier times, these necessities of love and care were taken care of by the grandparents. Now due to nuclear families and working mothers who are tired and busy when they come back home, the needs of the children are not catered to.
The attention span of the children is very little. So let us give them Quality Time, not Quantity Time.
If I only spent 10-20 minutes of myself, where my mind is full concentration with my child, that is where I am fulfilling his needs. He feels secured and happy.
I as a parent feel that I spent 1 hour with my child, but the fact is just the presence of my body is there but my mind and soul is somewhere else.
Next is Listening to them.
children like to talk about their friends and sometimes want to complain about them. But I as a parent, avoid listening to it as it is not a very important talk. But to my child, it's very important. So if not to me, to whom does he have to speak to share this to,
This is where I lack. Not being his TRUE FRIEND.
Children love to do activities like pouring water, cutting, sorting, playing with the vessels, etc. independently on their own but am I giving them a chance to do at home. If I as a parent, restrict the children from doing things on their own at home, where do they get a chance to have hands-on experiences. As a parent, am I not taking away their capabilities of experimenting experiences.
So we as parents, let's begin to hold our child's hands and make for them.
Use magic phrases-
'I LOVE YOU MY CHILD, I AM ALWAYS THERE FOR YOU'.
Guest writer:
Binte Ismail
(Preschool Research and Activity based learning expert)